Considering adoption brings of so many questions and concerns. And a very common question is, how do you adopt a newborn baby quickly?
To adopt a newborn baby quickly, be sure of your decision to adopt. Already be financially ready, and know which type of adoption agency you wish to work with. Know your home study requirements and get things ready before you are asked, and get your adoptive parent profile letter written.
There are two parts of the process that take the longest; the home study program and waiting for a child to become available.
We will cover the following topics in this article:
- Adoption Counseling to Discuss Your Decision
- Be Financially Ready to Adopt a Child
- Begin Vetting Adoption Agencies
- Complete the Home Study Process Quickly
- Create Your Adoptive Parent Adoption Profile
- Be Positive and Responsive with Communication
- Be Open-Minded and Consider All Child Options
There are things you can do to help speed up this process. Having the desire to adopt a child, however, is a decision not to be taken lightly.
It is okay to take your time and really make sure that adoption is the right decision for you.
Sometimes, people can change their mind after doing more in-depth research. You also need to realize that everyone wants to adopt a baby, and if there is a waiting list it might be very long.
Even though there are things you can do to help speed up the adoption process, there is no magic bullet that makes the process go faster.
Related Article: Have you ever wondered if adoption birth certificates look different than other birth certificates? Do Adoption Birth Certificates Look Different? FAQs is an enlightening write up that is worth a read.
Follow the tips below to ensure you are on top of your game and that you have done and are doing everything possible so you are not the hold up.
Adoption Counseling to Discuss Your Decision
Being sure of your adoption decision is crucial. I would strongly advise that if you and your partner are considering adoption, that you seek counseling to openly discuss all the variables that you will want to consider.
What to Know Before Adopting a Child is an enormously helpful article, courtesy of The New York Times, that covers a multitude of things you will want to consider before making your adoption decision.
Is your partner on the same page with the adoption decision? Having concerns about the adoption process is normal and to be expected.
Is your partner onboard with your excitement, or do they instead feel more apprehensive? Are you both open to the same types of children you may consider as a member of your family?
Are you wanting to adoption as a single parent? If so, you are not alone. Many single parents adopt children and provide them with loving and stable homes.
Gone are the days when it was an unspoken rule that if you planned on parenting a child, you would have a partner.
And let us be honest, your biological clock might be ticking, but that does not mean you have found your perfect partner to share child raising with you.
LGBT couples may be wondering if their desire to raise a child will be frowned upon and discriminated against.
However, it is becoming more and more acceptable today to adopt a child if you are of a different physical orientation, and many LGBT couple are adopting and raising happy and healthy children.
Do not let a preconceived notion in your head stop you from thinking you can adopt a child. That is simply not true!
Let go of the idea that counseling is only for those who suffer some sort of dysfunction in their lives.
Smart, mentally stable people know that discussing important decisions with others is healthy and helps them solidify their plans.
The hardest part of adopting a child is the long wait time that seems to drag on forever and a day.
Be Financially Ready to Adopt a Child
Make no mistake about it; adopting a child can be very expensive. You will want to do your research to make sure that you are financially ready to pursue your adoption option. Adopting a child can cost thousands of dollars to say the least.
Adopting a child: Financial Considerations, an article courtesy of The United Way, is an insightful article about things to consider when deciding if you are financially ready to adopt a child.
Being financially secure before you start making those phone calls will help you in being more prepared for the adoption process. You will want to make sure that your credit cards are paid off.
Do you have any outstanding student loans? Are you able to focus on getting those paid off sooner rather than later?
Having debt will not prevent you from being eligible to adopt a child. It’s just that the cost of the process can be very expensive. Do you own a home or are you renting? The cost of adoption could be a down payment on a home.
I am not saying that if you are renting you will not be allowed to adopt. I am simply saying that financially having your ducks in a row will not only make you look good to the adoption agency you choose as well as the birth mother, but the cost of adoption itself if going to really take a financial toll.
Adopting through the foster care system is significantly less expensive, not even remotely as costly as a traditional adoption.
This gives you the option of getting to know the child whom lives with you before deciding if you wish to adopt them. We encourage you to research the pros and cons of being a foster parent to know if this option is of interest to you.
Begin Vetting Adoption Agencies
Now it is time to start making those phone calls. But before you do, you will want to do some research to understand your adoption options.
There are several different adoption liaisons you can use to adopt a child, and you will want to become familiar with each of those options before deciding on the one you feel most comfortable with.
Choosing an Adoption Agency, courtesy of Resolve.Org, covers many things to consider when choosing the adoption agency you feel is best for you.
One may adopt locally, also known as a domestic adoption where you are adopting from your own local area.
Others may wish to travel abroad to adopt internationally, while others may take advantage of a national adoption agency where there are children all over the United States that may be adopted.
And let us not overlook the value in hiring an adoption lawyer to handle our adoption for us.
Keep in mind that regardless of the type of adoption agency you choose, there will always be a lawyer involved in the process.
An adoption attorney is necessary to ensure that all your paperwork is being handled properly and that all state requirements are being met.
To give you a head start on the types of adoption agencies you have to choose from, we will dive into some specifics on some of your options.
Domestic – Local Adoption Agencies
- Domestic adoptions can be completed within a few months.
- You are apt to receive more substantial medical and social history of the child you wish to adopt as compared to adopting internationally when medical history may not be known.
- There is no waiting list. You instead will put together a personal profile for the birth mothers to review, and they will determine whom will adopt their baby.
Your personal profile is a visual and written introduction that gives the birth mother a sneak peek into who you are as a family, so she can then have an idea of what it will be like for her unborn child.
National Adoption Agencies
- A national adoption agency represents all 50 states with offices all over the country and tends to be very large.
- You may be asked to satisfy more requirements due to other state adoption laws. It all depends on the state in which you are adopting in.
- There is naturally a larger selection of children to choose from with a national agency, as well as shorter wait times.
- Adoption costs tend to be more expensive due to their overhead of having employees spread out all over the US, which differs from local state agencies with less employees.
International Adoption Agencies
- As implied, your adopted child will be Internationally born.
- Choosing an international adoption means adopting an older child, but as young as an infant or toddler is possible.
- Whether you choose domestic or international, neither are more-or-less expensive than the other. When adopting internationally, the cost of travel is likely to significantly add to the overall costs.
- Internationally, the costs of adoption can vary based on which country you adopt from.
- You will be put on a traditional waiting list, which is very different when adopting a child domestically.
- There are age limitations in some countries, which may make you ineligible from being able to adopt.
Other factors such as how many times you have been divorced, as well as how long you have been married could affect your chances for international adoption eligibility.
- You will rarely receive family medical history when adopting from another country. Although, you would receive medical information for the child.
- There is a perceived advantage of being very far removed from the birthparents distance-wise. It is natural to have a secret fear that someday the birth parents and your adopted child will reunite.
Although not impossible, this is more unlikely when adopting internationally.
Foster Care Adoption
- Foster care provides a safe refuge for children who have been removed from their biological family home due to some sort of trauma they have experienced.
The State in which they reside puts the children in temporary custody, while the biological parents complete individualized requirements to earn back custody of their children.
- The ages of foster children available for adoption is between infancy and 21 years of age.
The Fostering Connections Act allows states the option to continue providing care for a child up to the age of 21 if they are attending school, working at least 80 hours per month, or suffering a medical hardship.
- The cost of foster care adoption is very minimal, if not zero out-of-pocket. This is another incentive for many adoptive parents to strongly consider adoption through the foster care system.
- Those wanting to adopt from the foster care system are strongly encouraged to first become foster parents. This is a wonderful way to access the compatibility between yourself and the child you are considering for adoption.
- A bit more than half of all foster children are returned to their biological parents. The children remaining in the foster care system are many times adopted by their relatives or their foster family.
- The children remaining in foster care desperately need a loving home.
- Foster care adoption is similar to other types of adoption with regard to the paperwork, requirement obligations, etc.
- Due to the trauma that all foster care children have been rescued from, it is important to be prepared for and understanding of the healing process that will follow.
Continued counseling as well as working on personal issues is to be expected.
We have several more articles on your adoption liaison options for each state as well as contact information based on the city in which you plan to adopt in.
Complete the Home Study Process Quickly
It is said that the home study process is the part that takes the longest. The home study process involves several steps that are required before an adoptive parent is eligible to adopt a child.
To learn more about home study programs for adoptive parents, visit Completing a Home Study, courtesy of AdoptUSKids.Org.
This involves in-home visits with a home study social worker, extensive paperwork, and participation in training and counseling.
In most states you will be required to pass a state and federal background check along with all other adults in your household.
A medical exam and medical records will also be requested to show that you are physically and mentally capable of raising a child.
You will need to provide financial records to show you are able to support a child and provide for their day-to-day needs as well as have reliable transportation.
Your home study social worker will want to do a walk-through of your home to ensure you meet all the safety precautions and requirements needed for a child. Remember though, that they are not looking for perfection!
There are so many things to consider, and your home study social worker will help you get ready for your child. For example, do you have safety latches on all kitchen and bathroom cabinets? Are all toxic cleaners up out of reach?
So here is my best advice on this one. Be proactive and already have your complete physical exams done and medical records available. Have on hand your financial documents.
Research what will be required for your home inspection and get those things taken care of right away.
Don’t wait for the process to prompt you to get these things done. The more ready you are ahead of time, the faster the process will be.
Create Your Adoptive Parent Adoption Profile
Although the adoption agency you end up choosing may have a specific process for putting together your adoptive parent profile, have yours ready anyway.
Some profiles are done online, and some are put together in a book for the birth mother to review.
Be ahead of the game and already have your letter to your prospective birth mother already typed out.
This will include everything from general information about you and your family, your pets, hobbies, as well as anything else that is near and dear to your heart.
Have some recent photos of you and your family at the ready when it comes time to put your adoptive parent profile together. The more prepared you are, the more time you will shave off your waiting period to adopt.
Be Positive and Responsive with Communication
Above all else, you will want to make an outstanding impression on the adoption agency or adoption liaison you decide to use. Be attentive to their every request.
If they ask for something, jump on it and provide that information as fast as humanly possible.
And manners, that is a thing. For goodness sakes be as courteous and polite as possible.
The goal here is to make sure that the people helping you adopt a child like you. As momma always said, we catch more flies with honey than we do vinegar.
The waiting time can be frustrating, so we need to make doubly sure we are not taking out our frustration on the very people there to help us.
It also wouldn’t hurt to reach out every few weeks to touch base with your adoption team so that you are routinely on the forefront of their minds.
Whatever you do, do not be too in-their-face and bother them every two weeks. I would suggest perhaps touching base every 5-8 weeks as a good balance of giving them enough trust and space to do their job with the occasional reminder you are there and excited to adopt a child.
Be Open-Minded and Consider All Child Options
Although it is very common to hope for a newborn when adopting a child, I ask you to please reach deep down into your heart and ask yourself if you could possibly also be open to something other than what you have your initial heart set on.
So many children need your unconditional love, and they are not all newborn babies.
There are many older children who are overlooked for the sole reason that so many adoptive parents are holding out for a baby. Are you open to a different race than your own?
How would your extended family process the idea of you adopting outside of your race?
Would you ever consider adopting a child who has a physical or mental handicap? Depending on the child you adopt will greatly depend on your adoption process wait time.
In the end, choose the child and the adoption agency that is right for you. . By knowing a little about the adoption process ahead of time, you are more able to be prepared which in turn will help your adoption process go much quicker!